I watched a documentary the other day called The Business of Being Born (www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com) and I just can’t seem to get it out of my head. The film deals with the state of maternity care within the United States. If you’ve ever birthed a child, plan to birth a child, are interested in the birthing process or are just a documentary junkie I recommend this movie. It was produced by Ricki Lake (yes, the same Rick Lake from the talk show) and it explores the difference of hospital vs. homebirth. If you take issue with seeing naked women delivering children, it’s not for you. However, if you can get over that part of it then I’m sure you will find the film extremely interesting.
I think that I really connected with the film because I had two very different birthing experiences between Rhys and Amelia. The type of birthing was the same, but how I felt coming out of the delivery room was so polar opposite I couldn’t even believe it. I was speechless after I had Amelia when I realized just how amazing the birthing experience could be. With Rhys I was so drugged-up, flat of my back, with an inconsiderate doctor making rude comments about how I was “the worst pusher she’d ever seen”. After he was born he was whisked away to be cleaned-up and inspected. I didn’t bond with him and it took me weeks to feel that special connection. I had Amelia naturally (with just a little help from some laughing gas to get me over the hump of bad contractions), she came out and was plopped right on my chest so that we could bond. I wasn’t high on some drug concoction so I was able to feel the rush of hormones that kick-start your maternal drive. I was over-the-moon happy and aware and excited. I was chatty and sociable. One nurse kept saying she couldn’t believe that I’d just had a baby (about 20 minutes after)! The nurses and the doctor were wonderful. Since I delivered her in a small town it felt more like a birthing center with some old midwives than a hospital that had to cycle women through as fast as possible.
I could go into a lot more detail, but I’m sure you guys don’t really want to hear it….how about you just watch the film (if you’re interested) and let me know what you think?